What does it really mean to be someone's "second choice?" Being considered a second choice often carries a negative connotation. "Don't ever be someone's second choice, you deserve so much better," I have been told. This is true. But, what about those movies where the best friend eagerly waits on the sidelines, while his or her friend continues to date the wrong person? Those situations seem to be accepted, even desired at times, by our culture. Why is it ok to be someone's second choice then? Perhaps it is the happy ending guarantee. The ending where the best friend gets his guy or girl and they live happily ever after. The real world doesn't work that way unfortunately. Not to say that one can't work towards a happing ending. But, the odds of convincing someone to like you who doesn't like you (or worse, is madly in love with someone else) are against you. Alas, people still continue to wait for that person they believe to be special. I used to be the girl that would tell people, "Why are you doing this to yourself? You should find someone who treats you like a princess. Don't be his second option." Now that I find myself the second choice, I feel torn. On one hand, I still feel as though no one should be a second choice for any guy. But, I also realize now that the contents of relationships differ, and rules often vary from situation to situation. Will I get my happy ending? I honestly do not know. Whether my happy ending comes soon or later, I can rest assured knowing I will get one someday. And, regardless of if it's the happy ending they envision for themselves, everyone is at least guaranteed an ending.
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